I want to apologize for not posting in a while I have been going through some things good and bad. Now, I am ready to make a more accurate post on something many people find difficult to do, learning how to love yourself. This doesn’t mean being vain or conceited. It means accepting your flaws and being able to see your self-worth so you can make changes to your life.
I say this is difficult because we live in a society where we are told that external things will only make us happy. Like money, huge houses, expensive cars, beauty treatments and even dating certain people. However, there are many people who do have these things and yet are often looking for something to fill that void. They fail to realize that what they are looking for cannot be bought and requires taking a hard look at one’s inner being. We would like to think that being with someone that strokes your ego all the time could be an answer. But, in reality, you cannot rely on other people to make you happy. You cannot expect someone to kiss your butt and constantly give you validation because:
1. It’s not fair for the other person in the relationship.
2. A toxic relationship like that can cause resentment, jealousy, and insecurity.
3. In reality, people need their space, and badgering someone for compliments can be annoying.
When learning how to love one’s self, one must take the time to figure out what they want out of life. Everyone says “I just want to be happy.” Yet you have to be more specific about what would make you happy. If your idea of happiness is obtaining material things, then you already failed. There’s is nothing wrong with wanting nice things, especially if you work really hard. However, wanting material things for the sake of impressing others or trying to make yourself feel better about the things you lack on the inside will actually make you feel worse. Loving yourself is about being self-aware and being honest with yourself. I had to learn how to quit being in denial about my situation and start making changes about what would be best for me, even if it meant leaving some things behind.
From my own experience I can only tell you a few things about loving yourself:
1. It’s okay to have flaws. flaws are still apart of your personality accept it.
2. Don’t compare yourself with other people. We spend to much time keeping up with the Jones that we forget that everyone has their own paths to walk. I am where I’m supposed to be in life, and you are where you are supposed to be. They may be different levels but you will get to the next level when it’s time.
3. Don’t rely on others to keep you happy. I have friends and family that keep me smiling but they have their own lives and troubles and it wouldn’t be right for me to expect them to cater to my emotional needs 24/7. It’s very selfish.
4. Learn to let things go. This is something I can say I’m still working on. Sometimes people can work my nerves because I’m a sensitive person. I’m learning that I need to take some things with a grain of salt. I learn that sometimes when someone says something to get under your skin. It really has nothing to do with you, they are just projecting their inner feelings on to you.
I could do more but I think I need to wrap this up. I hope this entry will help someone out and I will make sure to post more often.
