People are very surprised when I tell them that I am a spiritual person only because my views on life a really…harsh. I can admit I can sound cynical at times but only because I tend to see things for what they are. I can’t do the whole rose-colored glasses bit, when you’re an empath that has connected your self to Creator, those glasses get snatched from you. So here’s a few things I figured out on my 27 years on this earth.
- Finding happiness and validation within yourself is the key to a better life. People tend to run around like headless chickens looking for lots of attention to validate their worth. What happens when you keep doing that and always come up short, why? Because you’re empty inside and can’t find value within your own self, so you rely on external means like, posting provocative photos (doesn’t apply to everyone) or creating drama so the spotlight can be on you, jumping from relationship to relationship etc. The thing is, while external validation is nice and even healthy, constantly seeking it will not only drain you of energy but it’s temporary. Inner happiness is no joke once you find happiness within yourself you can stop the almost endless cycle of seeking and then losing.
2. Everyone doesn’t have to like you or even care about you, get over it. Often we do certain things because we want people to like us. It goes hand in hand with validation from other. Sometimes we get tend to let our ego tell us that everyone should love you. WRONG!!! Let’s break this down shall we:
There are over 7 billion people in the world–how many people do you know?–How many people you know love you?–how many that love you are related to you?…you see not a very big number in the grand scheme of things. The point I’m trying to make here is that in life only a small hand full of people are ever going to care about your existence. That doesn’t mean you aren’t special, it just means we need to quit trying to make everyone love us when they aren’t really obligated to do anything for you and that includes the people who do love you. No one owes you anything in life, show gratitude, be thankful for the ones in your life that do care and love you because at the end of the day you’re just one out of 7 billion. Get over yourself.
3. Don’t take social media so seriously….please. Many people will lose their mind over an unliked post or a denied friend request. When did people started taking cyberspace so seriously? What happened was, people stopped connecting on an organic level (talking at a coffee shop, dates, etc.) Now everywhere I go people are buried in their phones because you can connect to a large amount of people in a short span of time. This can be good when promoting art or sharing ideas and laughs but when it becomes the only way you connect with people it becomes a problem. Soon you get so consumed with it that the world around you becomes non-existent. Do me a favor, go a whole week without looking at your social media and you’ll see a major difference. It’s a bit scary.
4. The only thing that’s constant is change. Nothing in life will stay the same, not even you. The life you lived at 24 will be completely different from the life you live at 30. You will lose old friends and gain new ones, some people will die and some will be born, you will joyous moments and moments of despair. It’s all part of this crazy ride call life and how you react to these ups and downs will mold you into different forms throughout time. Some people don’t like change but it is necessary if we want our lives to be better than it was yesterday. This also means we must accept some changes within ourselves, age is a huge change that people often fear. It’s scary for many because it cannot be controlled, beauty creams, anti-aging masks, botox these things cannot stop father time. Life is all about change and growth, if you refuse to grow and learn, you will remain stuck in a perpetual loop and then find yourself all alone. I know that sounds dark but I’ve seen people who have ended up like that, don’t let your stubbornness keep you from necessary growth.
Life can be scary, we never know what path we pick might take us. It’s important to stay connected to the universe and to Creator but also remember you can’t go off into a fantasy world to hide from your problems. As long as you live on this earth you will never run away from your problems. My Lakota sister once told me, Native men pluck the hairs from their face because they are taught to face forward. Meaning they are taught that the only to deal with your problems is the confront them face to face. Reality can be a beautiful thing, with all the heartache and pain there is also jubilation and peace. Embrace all of it.
